Igisobanuro cy’umuntu mwiza gikunze kwibazwaho mu buryo butandukanye. Nta kabuza ko impaka ku ijambo mwiza zavamo urubanza rukabura gica. Bamwe bashyira igipimo ku mutungo, amafaranga, cyangwa urwego umuntu agezeho mu buzima. Gusa ibyo ntibigaragaza ko bihagije mu gusobanura uwo ari we.
Umuntu mwiza tuvuga muri iyi nyandiko si wa muntu w’uburanga cyangwa ufite ibyo yagezeho hanze. Uzumva abantu bavuga bati “runaka ni umuntu mwiza”. Uyu muntu ashobora kugaragarira mu myitwarire ye ya buri munsi, mu magambo avugana n’abandi, ndetse no mu bikorwa bye, yaba mu ruhame cyangwa mu muhezo.
Guhitamo ukuri aho kubeshya, kubaha aho gusuzugura, no gufasha aho kwirengagiza abandi ni bimwe mu bigaragaza iyo mico.
Muri rusange, ubwiza bw’umuntu ahanini bugenwa n’indangagaciro ze; ku bikorwa bye bya buri munsi, birimo uburyo avugana n’abandi, uko yihanganira ibimubaho byose, uko afata inshingano ze, n’imyitwarire agaragaza mu gihe nta wumureba.
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Ibi ni ibimenyetso 6 wakwisuzumiraho:
1. Umuntu mwiza ni ugira ubumuntu (Kindness)
Ubumuntu ni imwe mu nkingi z’ingenzi zisobanura umuntu mwiza. Bugaragaza ubushobozi bwo kwita ku bandi no kubafasha hatagamijwe inyungu bwite.
Umuntu ufite ubumuntu arangwa n’umutima w’impuhwe, ubushobozi bwo kumva ububabare bw’abandi, ndetse n’ubushake bwo gutanga ubufasha aho bishoboka.
Iyi mico igaragarira mu buryo umuntu yitwara mu bihe bitandukanye, cyane cyane mu gihe abandi bahuye n’ibibazo cyangwa bakeneye ubufasha mu buzima bwa buri munsi.
Icy’ingenzi ntikiba inyungu umuntu ashobora kubona, ahubwo kiba uruhare agira mu gutuma abandi bumva bamerewe neza no kubafasha gutekereza neza.
Hari imvugo nyarwanda igira iti “Ijambo ryiza ni mugenzi w’Imana”. Iyi mvugo igaragaza neza agaciro k’amagambo meza mu kubaka imibanire myiza n’abandi.
Mu buryo busesenguye, ubumuntu bugaragazwa n’ibikorwa byoroshye ariko bihoraho, nko kubwira abandi amagambo meza, gufasha ukeneye ubufasha, no gutega amatwi umuntu utamuciriye urubanza.
Ibi byose byerekana umutima wita ku bandi no gushyira imbere kugira ineza kurusha kwibanda ku nyungu bwite.
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2. Kuvuga ukuri no kuba inyangamugayo (Honesty & Integrity)
Kuvuga ukuri no kuba inyangamugayo ni imwe mu ndangagaciro z’ingenzi zisobanura umuntu mwiza. Iyi mico igaragazwa n’ubushobozi bwo gukurikiza ukuri mu magambo no mu bikorwa, hatitawe ku nyungu z’ako kanya umuntu ashobora kubona.
Umuntu urangwa n’ukuri ntahitamo kubeshya cyangwa kugoreka ibintu kugira ngo agere ku byo ashaka byihuse. Umunyakuri ahitamo gukomeza kuba inyangamugayo n’ubwo byamugora, kuko ukuri ari ishingiro ry’icyizere mu mibanire y’abantu.
Ibi bituma yubaka izina rishingiye ku cyizere n’icyubahira, aho ibyo avuga n’ibyo akora bihura.
Kuba inyangamugayo ntibigarukira gusa ku magambo ahubwo bigaragarira no mu bikorwa bya buri munsi. Muri ibi bikorwa harimo nko gufata ibyemezo bishingiye ku kuri, kwemera no gukosora amakosa igihe yabayeho, ndetse no kudahisha amakuru akomeye ashobora kugira ingaruka ku bandi.
Ibi bituma umuntu agira icyubahiro mu bandi ndetse bikamufasha kubaka umubano urambye n’abandi no kwiyubaha ubwe mu buryo bwuzuye.
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3. Kubaha abandi (Respect)
Ntabwo kwiyubahwa ariho ibijyanye no kuba umuntu mwiza birangirira, no kubaha abandi burya ni imwe mu ndangagaciro ziranga umuntu mwiza. Igaragaza imyitwarire yo guha agaciro buri muntu, hatitawe ku myaka, umyanya, ububasha cyangwa itandukaniro riri mu mitekerereze, imibereho n’imico.
Kubaha ntibireba abantu bamwe gusa, ahubwo ni ihame rishingiye ku kwemera ko buri muntu afite agaciro
Nk’uko bigaragazwa na Behavior Analyst Certification Board, kubaha abandi bigaragarira cyane mu mvugo no mu mibanire ya buri munsi.
Umuntu wubaha abandi arangwa no kuvuga mu buryo buboneye, kwirinda amagambo asesereza cyangwa asuzuguza abandi, ndetse no kubatega amatwi mu gihe bavuga. Iyi myitwarire igira uruhare rukomeye mu kubaka umubano urambye n’ubwumvikane hagati y’abantu.
Kubaha abandi kandi bigira ingaruka nziza ku mibanire rusange, kuko bituma abantu bumva batekanye, bakagira icyizere mu mikoranire, kandi bigafasha kubaka umuco w’ubwubahane mu muryango no mu bandi bantu muri rusange.
4. Kwishyira mu mwanya w’abandi (Empathy)
Kwishyira mu mwanya w’abandi (empathy) ni ubushobozi bugaragaza umuntu mwiza binyuze mu kugerageza gusobanukirwa uko batekereza, uko bamerewe, n’ibyo bari kunyuramo.
Iyi ndangagaciro ishingira ku bushishozi bwo kutihutira guca imanza hashingiwe ku byo umuntu yabonye cyangwa yumvise mu buryo bwihuse.
Ni ukuvuga ngo ni umuntu ubanza gutega amatwi no gusobanukirwa neza uko ibintu bimeze mbere yo gutanga igitekerezo cyangwa gufata umwanzuro. Ibi bituma habaho gufata abandi mu buryo bwo kubaha no kubatekerezaho.
Umuntu ufite ubushobozi bwo kumva abandi bigira uruhare rukomeye mu kubaka imibanire myiza. Bituma abantu bumva ko bumvwa kandi ko batekerezwaho, bikongera icyizere mu mikoranire.
Si ugutega amatwi gusa, ahubwo ni no kugaragaza ko ibyiyumviro by’abandi bifite agaciro, bigafasha kubaka amahoro, ubwumvikane n’imibanire irambye hagati y’abantu.
5. Imyitwarire myiza n’ikinyabupfura (Good Behavior & Discipline)
Imyitwarire myiza igaragaza umuntu mwiza kurusha amagambo avuga. Igaragarira mu buryo umuntu yitwara mu buzima bwa buri munsi, aho ibikorwa bye biba igipimo nyamukuru cy’imico ye.
Mu isesengura ry’imyitwarire, umuntu ufite ikinyabupfura arangwa no guha agaciro ubuzima bwe n’ubw’abandi. Ibi bituma yirinda ibikorwa bishobora kumuteza urubwa, kumwambika isura mbi, cyangwa bikabangamira abandi, ahubwo akibanda ku byamuteza imbere n’abandi.
Imyitwarire myiza igaragarira mu nzego zitandukanye z’ubuzima, harimo akazi, mu muryango, n’imibanire rusange.
Umuntu ufite imyitwarire myiza n’ikinyabupfura aba urugero rwiza abandi bashobora gukurikiza kandi bikamwongerera icyubahiro mu bandi nk’uko twabivuze mu ngingo ya kabiri.
6. Kugira ingaruka nziza kubandi (Positive Influence)
Iyi ni imwe mu ndangagaciro zigaragaza umuntu mwiza binyuze mu ngaruka nziza agira ku bandi. Ibi bisobanura ubushobozi bwo kuba inkingi y’iterambere ry’abandi, aho umuntu atanga umusanzu mu kubafasha gutera imbere mu bitekerezo, mu bikorwa no mu buzima muri rusange.
Kugira ingaruka nziza ku bandi bisaba kugira ubushake bwo kubona iterambere ry’abandi, gusangiza ubumenyi, no gutanga ibitekerezo byubaka.
Iyi mwitwarire igaragaza agaciro k’umuntu mu muryango, mu kazi, no mu bandi bantu, kuko atanga umusanzu uhoraho mu kuzamura abandi no guteza imbere sosiyete muri rusange.
Bityo, buri wese ahabwa amahitamo ashingiye ku myitwarire ye ya buri munsi: kuba umuntu wubaka abandi cyangwa ubasenya, gutanga icyizere cyangwa kukigabanya.
Kuba umuntu mwiza ni icyemezo gihoraho gifatwa buri munsi, gishingira ku guhitamo imico ituma ubuzima bw’umuntu n’ubw’abandi burushaho kuba bwiza.
Umusozo
Umuntu mwiza ntasobanurwa n’ibyo afite, amafaranga atunze cyangwa urwego agezeho mu buzima gusa.
Ahubwo isesengura ry’imico ye rishingira ku buryo yitwara mu mibanire n’abandi, uko avugana nabo, uko abumva, ndetse n’imyitwarire agaragaza mu bikorwa bya buri munsi.
Ibi bikorwa ni byo bigaragaza ishusho nyayo y’umuntu kurusha amagambo cyangwa isura igaragara inyuma.
Kuba umuntu mwiza rero ntibifatwa nk’igikorwa kimwe kirangira, ahubwo ni urugendo ruhoraho rwa buri munsi.
Uru rugendo rutangirira mu ndangagaciro z’imbere mu mutima, rukagaragarira mu magambo avugwa, no mu bikorwa bikorerwa mu ruhame ndetse no mu bwihisho.
Imyitwarire yo mu bintu bi bya buri munsi ni yo igena neza imiterere y’indangagaciro z’umuntu.
